The masculinity revolution is a quiet one. Don’t trust its loudest critics.

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Men are under attack. Everything that makes masculinity sacred — valor, honor, chivalry, leadership — is under siege. 

What else could explain a recent commercial for a Gillette razor blade suggesting that men should spare each other from bullying and hold each other accountable for sexual harassment? How else should we interpret guidelines recently issued by the American Psychological Association to help therapists more effectively work with their male clients by better understanding the social pressure they face to be so-called real men? 

Masculinity is having a moment. There’s a movement for a more expressive, more inclusive definition of manhood, but its critics see something more nefarious. If you listen to Piers Morgan or New York Times columnist Ross Douthat, skeptics of the Gillette ad and APA guidelines, you might mistake that movement as an assault waged by feminists and liberals when it’s really a quiet revolution staged in large part by men of diverse backgrounds who are tired of living by the very narrow, unforgiving standards of stereotypical masculinity.  Read more…

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Meet Aaron Gouveia, the dad who defended son’s nail polish in viral Twitter thread

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From the moment expectant parents learn a baby’s sex, they’ll hear messages about how that baby should look and act. Parents of boys are often told they should raise boys to be competitive, aggressive, and stoic. Aaron Gouveia, the founder of the blog Daddy Files and father of three boys, thinks that’s all B.S. 

On Oct. 22, Gouveia posted a Twitter thread about his 5-year-old son, Sam, who was bullied at school for wearing red nail polish to school. The thread’s first tweet, which has since received over 68,000 likes, touched on toxic masculinity and gender norms, two themes Gouveia has explored in his personal life and professional career. For Gouveia, conversations about those subjects couldn’t be more relevant today — and not just because he wrote a viral Twitter thread about them.  Read more…

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You haven’t heard of this masculinity movement, but it’s exactly what men need right now

You can’t fault Jeffrey O’Brien for feeling frustrated. 
The past few months have brought a deluge of headlines about violent and abusive aspects of stereotypical masculinity, but few of those stories have mentioned what O’Brien, an expert in ge…

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